Originally, I was going to write on another topic, but a recent experience made me write about why I hate playing the so-called ‘Dating–Game’.
1) 9 times of 10 the person you’re dating is either flat-out lying, or keeping something from you. In other words, they’re not being truthful.
2) I hate the ‘feeling–each–other–out’ phase. Its when you’re both trying to figure each other out, and everything that’s being said or done is second-guessed, and justified by presuming each of you have some secret, alternative motive.
3) Sometimes the person you’re dating may be in denial and don’t want to see things for what they are; meaning, they, for whatever reasons, don’t want to admit you’re actually dating. When a male and female are friends and begin spending time together regularly, by going places and doing things; movies, dinner/lunch dates, etc… and the guy pays, then you’re dating! Its not always be on an intimate level, but you’re still dating.
4) Its too much of a ‘guessing–game’. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to ‘guess’ when my feelings are on the line.
5) Its too difficult to trust and protect your feelings. The more time you spend with someone, the more attracted and comfortable you become with them–Even if you try not to because you’re not sure if you can, or fully trust the person.
I have other reasons, but—well anyway–Dating just has too many ‘what-ifs’. What if he/she don’t like me? What if they’re waiting for me to make a ‘move’? What if they’re seeing someone else? What if this? What if that? What if they’re using me? Being too consumed with all the ‘what-ifs’ and all that comes with it, leaves you vulnerable, and I hate being that vulnerable. I could go on and elaborate much more, but why? What’s the point? And that’s how I’m feeling about dating right now–Why? Whats the point? Everytime I do, I come out with the short end of things no matter.how hard I try, so — Fuck it!